but all i've gotten from this post so far is the basic internet "you can't do that (you dummy)"...
No one has said anything like that to you, but maybe the reason you haven't had any more responses to your post is because your attitude is so off.

All that I was trying to do was to advise against having an unmanaged VPS unless you do know how to administrate a server yourself. I based this on a great deal of experience of answering posts from people who buy unmanaged VPS systems and then can't even get them in basic working order afterwards.

The previous post is incorrect. If you have a VPS with 256 Mbs of RAM then that's what you get allocated to you to run everything. A VPS is a sectioned off part of the server with a finite amount of resources allocated to it and often with root access to allow you to install whatever you want on it.

If you need root access then you'll have to go for an unmanaged server, but if you don't need root access then a fully managed VPS is a better option - even though it's much more expensive.

There really isn't anything else to offer by way of advice. You'll know yourself to shop around for what seems to be the right deal for you.

Vger