below is from lxadmin on my vps.

Pid State Memory (MB) User Command
17881 33.16 apache /usr/sbin/httpd
17882 33.04 apache /usr/sbin/httpd
17886 32.93 apache /usr/sbin/httpd
17878 32.89 apache /usr/sbin/httpd
17879 32.86 apache /usr/sbin/httpd
17880 32.82 apache /usr/sbin/httpd
17884 32.8 apache /usr/sbin/httpd
17883 32.17 apache /usr/sbin/httpd
11632 27.88 mysql /usr/libexec/mysqld --defaults-file=/etc/my.cnf --basedir=/usr --datadir=/var/lib/mysql --user=mysql
17876 24.28 root /usr/sbin/httpd
19765 7.95 root sshd: root@pts/1
32683 7.95 root sshd: root@pts/0
31887 6.05 root /usr/libexec/courier-authlib/authdaemond
31874 6.05 root /usr/libexec/courier-authlib/authdaemond
30696 5.13 lxlabs /usr/local/lxlabs/ext/lxlighttpd/sbin/lxadmin.httpd -f /usr/local/lxlabs/lxadmin/file/lighttpd.conf
30453 5 root /usr/sbin/sshd
30517 3.94 root ../sbin/lxadmin.exe master
31909 3.11 root crond
3115 2.63 root vi my.cnf
30441 2.57 dbus dbus-daemon --system
27686 2.55 root xinetd -stayalive -pidfile /var/run/xinetd.pid
32759 2.3 root -bash
19814 2.3 root -bash
30499 2.29 root sh ../sbin/lxadmin-wrapper.sh
11590 2.29 root /bin/sh /usr/bin/mysqld_safe --defaults-file=/etc/my.cnf --pid-file=/var/run/mysqld/mysqld.pid --log
7847 2.05 root top
1 1.91 root init [3]
31852 1.76 qmails qmail-send
30422 1.59 root syslogd -m 0
31884 1.56 root /usr/bin/tcpserver -v -R -H -l server1.inflatablesale.com 0 995 /usr/bin/couriertls -server -tcpd /u
31888 1.55 root /usr/bin/tcpserver -v -R -H -l server1.inflatablesale.com 0 143 /usr/sbin/imaplogin /usr/bin/imapd M
31892 1.55 root /usr/bin/tcpserver -v -R -H -l server1.inflatablesale.com 0 993 /usr/bin/couriertls -server -tcpd /u
30479 1.55 root tcpserver -vDRHl0 -x tcp.cdb -- 0.0.0.0 53 /usr/local/bin/axfrdns
31876 1.55 root /usr/bin/tcpserver -v -R -H -l server1.inflatablesale.com 0 110 /usr/sbin/pop3login /usr/bin/pop3d M
31854 1.54 root qmail-lspawn |preline procmail
31855 1.54 qmailr qmail-rspawn
31853 1.53 qmaill splogger qmail
31856 1.52 qmailq qmail-clean
30478 1.51 tinydns /usr/local/bin/tinydns