Using Paypal Payments pro for the embedded credit card processing. To use that, paypal also requires Instant payments to be activated ... okay...

When the user checks out via the instant, an account is automatically created.

A few things I've noticed
1-They are never asked to create an account password
2-They do not get an new customer e-mail
3-They do not have the choice to join the mailing list.

Is there a way to change the options for at least #2 or #3? The mailing list is the most important to me; that's my direct line of communication to my customers.