is there a special way to make the reciprocal link? I have tried these

You can find it on my new site at:
http://www.YOUR LINKS PAGE HERE!

Please add my reciprocal link below to your site:
HTML form
<a href="http://www.YOUR WEB SITE URL HERE!"
>LINKING TEXT HERE!</A> DESCRIPTION HERE!<P>

OR:
Linking text:
YOUR LINKING TEXT HERE!
URL:
http://www.YOUR WEB SITE URL HERE!
Description:
YOUR DESCRIPTION HERE!

and it will not detect the link from the admin tool link checker.

I am also trying to add how many links are in one category visibly available. Just like the category's on the products page there are numbers next to them showing how many are in the category.