The page you refer to is code for manipulating images with jQuery.

The page for code to work with Flash files is here:
http://www.malsup.com/jquery/media/

With that said, what you are wanting is specific customization for your site. If you are finding the instructions and examples provided at the site, difficult to understand or use then you need to spend some time learning more about jQuery

As for providing help specific to your problem, we would need to know more details about the specific problem(s) you are having and a site to view what you've done so far would be good as well.