lost with page/category layout

[rutra]

Hello there:)

i got a problem with my category/page layout i can't solve myself.
when i add a new product i got 2 options - product quantity box enabled or disabled, when i set to enable i get add to cart quantity box in product pages and my category listing looks like in 3rd product ( add quantity box)
When i disable it, category page listings look like in first 2 products (just add to cart button withou quantities) But when i choose disabled, i don't have a quantity box in product listing either.

I hope it's clear what i mean, anyway i attached a screenshot of my category page layout.

What i'd like is:
product page - add to cart quantity box and add to cart button
category page - add to cart button only (without quanity box)

how can i do it? is it possible?
i'm completly lost