Ok, I have no idea what I did that fixed it last night - I played with several fixes I found in the forum. but apparently the edit orders in the initial site I was working in is now working EXCEPT the send notice to customer. This appears to not be working and has to be done seperately using the "Unprofessional Fix"

I will try copying these files over to the other sites I'm working on and cross my fingers that whatever I changed in my files fixes them also.