Not sure about all your preamble about paypal updates and so on.

Also, there's no such thing as v1.3.9fp1. It went from v1.3.9f to v1.3.9g and then v1.3.9h

Quote Originally Posted by printchic View Post
- Can that paypal button be disabled so that it doesn't show and they have to go through my store first (like paypal standard works).
Yes. Upgrade to v1.3.9h or newer. Then use the new option to turn off the Express Checkout Shortcut button since you have one customer who is confused by it.