ok I searched through
240 directories 8152 files (skipped images.. Lol) and in sitemapxml_install.php on online 63 I found this, which I changed to true..

Code:
'SITEMAPXML_PRODUCTS_USE_CPATH' => array(CFGTITLE_SITEMAPXML_PRODUCTS_USE_CPATH, 'true', CFGDESC_SITEMAPXML_PRODUCTS_USE_CPATH, 32, null, 'zen_cfg_select_option(array(\'true\', \'false\'),'),
'SITEMAPXML_PRODUCTS_IMAGES' =>
now when you bring the xml up in a browser window which loads the "/includes/templates/template_default/css/gss.xsl" and click a link you get the product page... but if you copy and paste the raw link, which still has the & in it... it opens a "product not found" page

so 2 questions...
1. did I miss the correct sitemap config file?? if so can you tell me it's name??
2. can the sitemap be built WITH the CPATH in the raw link or does it only add it when the gss.xsl template is used?