Crazy enough I got it to work. I am not sure how I have tried the swfobject 2.0 multiple times and even downloaded the "air" one which is a generator. But for some reason it decided to work.

In reply to sawhorse I actually do have my swf in the root directory which wasn't working at first but not it is. Not sure what turned that around but here is what i did...or at least what i have.

I downloaded the swfobjects 2.0 and also used the air generator thing which you can download both of them from here..

http://code.google.com/p/swfobject/

I used the generator and typed in the name of the file and the parameters and generated the code. I uploaded the .js file and the swf file to the server.

My code looks like this for the flash

Code:

<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC "-//W3C//DTD XHTML 1.0 Strict//EN" "http://www.w3.org/TR/xhtml1/DTD/xhtml1-strict.dtd">
<html xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" lang="en" xml:lang="en">
	<head>
		<title></title>
		<meta http-equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=iso-8859-1" />
		<script type="text/javascript" src="includes/templates/YOUR TEMPLATE/swfobject.js"></script>
		<script type="text/javascript">
			var flashvars = {};
			var params = {};
			params.play = "true";
			var attributes = {};
			attributes.align = "middle";
			swfobject.embedSWF("myflashfile.swf", "myflashfile", "100%", "100%", "9.0.0", "expressInstall.swf", flashvars, params, attributes);
		</script>
	</head>
	<body>
		<div id="myflashfile">
			<a href="http://www.adobe.com/go/getflashplayer">
				<img src="http://www.adobe.com/images/shared/download_buttons/get_flash_player.gif" alt="Get Adobe Flash player" />
			</a>
		</div>
	

</body>
</html>
I hope with this code I would be able to help someone out.

Now for the bad news...I am still having trouble with the black "space" above and below the actual flash file. I believe it is part of the flash file but not sure how or why. This black space also will need to be set to change with resolution i think because I changed resolution and my flash files width went all the way across like it is supposed to (at least for 1280 x 768) however the black color either gets smaller or larger depending on resolution...

I have researched more about the resolution "sniffer" and found different codes but not sure exactly what I need to do. I found this piece of code..

Code:
if((System.capabilities.screenResolutionX>1024)&& (System.capabilities.screenResolutionX<1280)){ //Place your actions here }
Also found this code

Code:
if(System.capabilities.screenResolutionX==1024){ //Place your actions for 1024 resolution here } else if(System.capabilities.screenResolutionX==800){ //Place your actions for 800 resolution here }
Neither of these I know anything about or how to place my own actions. I will have to refer to the flash file obviously but not sure exactly how to do this part. Anyone have any information about this...

THANKS FOR THE HELP GUYS YALL ROCK